How to Support a Loved One With Depression

We all have people we care about in this life. Whether it’s a friend, a family member or even a coworker- when we see signs or they disclose to us that they are experiencing depression, what can you do to actually support them? That empathy goes a long way, but you want to be conscientious not to “fix it” for them. Your presence and understanding alone can make a significant difference. Here are some ways to offer support:

1. Active listening: This is a therapeutic strategy used commonly in psychotherapy to demonstrate attention. Being a compassionate and attentive listener can enhance feelings of safety and support for the person sharing their story.

2. Educate yourself: Knowledge is power. The more you can self educate about a situation, the better you can show up in the dynamic. Even if you can’t relate, trying to understand helps you be a better and more informed advocate. 

3. Check In Regularly/ Include Them: Speaking of showing up- it matters! Checking in more frequently with a quick text here or extending an invitation for them to join you, even on everyday errands, sends the message that you care. 

4. Be Patient: Progress isn’t a gradual incline. It’s up and down and regression can be a normal part of sustained improvement. Be patient with your loved one, as their journey may take longer than you see fit. 

5. Encourage Professional Help: Supporting your people is admirable and important. However, remember you are not a trained mental health professional. Sometimes finding a therapist can be the hardest and most intimidating part that delays people from seeking help. So- that is a great way to aid your friend in need! Psychology Today is a great therapist directory to explore provider options.

6. Practice Self Care: Though your friend is going through a tough time, being witness to it can cause secondary stress for you too. Make sure to prioritize your own self care. Be demonstrative through action- if your friend sees you practicing healthy coping, odds are it will increase their motivation to do the same. 

Depression can be a lonely and isolating experience. Having support is one of the best protective factor for a person in the pit of depression. Being a part of your loved one’s recovery is the truest act of support you can encourage. Practice these tips on how to show up for them effectively, lovingly and productively.

Get Inspired,

Lauren